Wonder where your relationship is heading?
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Grab a pen and paper and be brutally honest with yourself.
Answers to these 10 quick questions will give you an idea of where your relationship is heading.
When you are feeling sad, how does your partner respond?
A) They are supporting and comforting
B) They try to help, but just aren't good at it
C) They're indifferent or they make it worse
How do you and your partner handle disagreements?
A) We talk it out and listen to each other's viewpoints
B) We argue first then find a way to resolve things
C) We just don't talk about it
How much do you trust your partner?
A) Completely
B) Mostly but I have my doubts
C) Almost never
How do you and your partner resolve conflicts?
A) We find a compromise
B) One of us gives in to keep the peace
C) We don't
How often do you and your partner enjoy the same activities or interests?
A) Almost always
B) Sometimes
C) Rarely
How aligned are your long-term goals (family, career, lifestyle, etc)?
A) Very Aligned
B) Somewhat aligned
C) Not aligned
How do you and your partner handle the need for personal space and independence?
A) We respect each other's needs
B) Sometimes we struggle with it
C) It's a constant source of tension
How content are you with the level of intimacy and affection in your relationship?
A) Very content
B) Somewhat content
C) Not content
How similar are your core values and beliefs (religion, ethics, etc)?
A) Very similar
B) Somewhat similar
C) Completely different
How do you and your partner make important decisions?
A) We make them together
B) One of us takes the lead
C) We mostly disagree and struggle to decide
Scoring
- 3 points for each A
- 2 points for each B
- 1 point for each C
Instructions
Add your total score
- 10-15 points. You relationship has challenges.. There are significant areas of concern that need improvement and attention. It might be beneficial to seek professional guidance to address these issues.
- 16-22 points. Your relationship has a good foundation. Some areas could benefit from attention or improvement. Consider discussing these questions with your partner for improvement.
- 23-30 points. Your relationship is highly compatible. You and your partner are well- aligned in key areas. You share a healthy, strong relationship.